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Filming ‘Rent boy’: Behind The Scenes

Director: Melissa Fergusson

DOP: Tim Butler-Jones

1st AD/Sound Tech: Rob Ipsen

Art Department: Lina Cruz

Makeup & Hair Stylist: Angela Crumpe

Rent boy: Lee ah yen Faatoia

Stripper: Christine Becker

Probation officer: Baz Te Hira

Homeless man: Gabriel Henry

John: Michael Hallows

Special thanks: Paper Bag Princess, Christine Becker, Four Eyes Media, Rebecca Parr, Cafe Al-Madina, Topic Rentals, Splice & LYC.

   
    
    
    
    
   
     

 

Interview with L.Y.C (Love Your Condom): Ricky Te Akau

1. When/why was LYC initiated?

L.Y.C is a community-focused programme designed to create a condom culture across Aotearoa New Zealand. L.Y.C encourages all gay and bisexual men to use condoms and lube every time they have sex. It is a sexy, upbeat call to ‘love your condom’. ‘Love your condom’ is about moving us past all those lame excuses not to be safe, and inspires us to not just tolerate, but love the sexy confidence that comes with condom covered cocks.

L.Y.C recognises that gay and bisexual men, the people most at risk of HIV, are influenced by their partners, whānau, friends, colleagues, employers and the environment in which they live. While it is essential that L.Y.C reaches and affects all gay and bisexual men living in Aotearoa New Zealand, it is also necessary to reach the people who can support, influence and enable gay and bisexual men to use condoms and lube every time they have anal sex. L.Y.C. Was originally launched in 2009 in it’s first iteration as ‘Get It On!’.

2. What is your role at NZAF?

I am the Social Marketing Coordinator Maori and look after aspects of online and mass media of L.Y.C. with a particular focus on Takatāpui and their whanau.

3. What is your opinion on sex work?

I believe in choices especially choices that empower individuals and allow lives to be lived and no judgements be made. As the old adage says sex work is the oldest profession and has been happening since the dawn of time . . . I think the stigma attached to sex work and workers is a new one.

4. Do you know the current statistics of HIV/AIDS in NZ?

The best place for the most up to date information would be to visit our website at NZAF http: http://www.nzaf.org.nz/

5. What services do NZAF & LYC offer?

Again all our NZAF services are listed on our website with LYC being the social marketing arm that promotes safe sexy times and being empowered in making the right decisions.

6. How could other people in society support NZAF?

There are no boundaries to assisting NZAF be it with your time in volunteering or through donating in a monetary sense. Our doors are always open.

7. What other organisations do NZAF work with?

The list is endless! We work with and support various organisations who likewise support LGBTQI and heterosexual people in either HIV prevention, people living with HIV and those who are there for assistance.

8. Tell me about the last World HIV/AIDS conference you attended in Melbourne last month?

Melbourne was an amazing opportunity to be able to see what other countries are doing in research, prevention and assistance for those affected directly and indirectly with HIV/AIDS. Some 15,000 passionate people from around the world attended and this brought about effective networking, sharing and valuable knowledge.

9. Why do you think HIV/AIDS is still so stigmatized in modern society?

The lack of knowledge around transmission and those that are affected by it. More education around the epidemic is needed and with this would come greater acceptance.

10. What do you think of the word ‘WHORE’?

The word has been bandied around for years and is inexplicably connected with prostitution . . . and in this sense is used in a derogatory way. I’m not one for name calling . . . and don’t think WHORE is an offensive word.

Do You Date Online?

Have you ever used Match.com? I did 10 years ago and dated three men who turned out (respectively) to be an engineer, an art historian and a barrister. Not bad odds. So what about Tinder? I had a quick look at this app and it looks like sex comes easy – to some. Slide the screen across to the left, and simply choose the heart to accept, or X to decline. It’s great to meet people fast in your vicinity, if you get a match – then what? What about Zoosk? You can download this app and connect with people easily too – however you need to pay (handsomely) to chat or message people. I think a lot of us find ‘window shopping’ for potential hook-ups, dates, sex or relationships appealing right? You select and speak to men or women, on your terms without any physical contact. It bets wasting time blind-dating or speed-dating perhaps? Make sure you articulate what you want on these digital dating sites, and it might keep you busy for a while, until the novelty wears off. There are also other dating apps that are globally popular including: Let’s date, e Harmony, OK Cupid, PlentyofFish, Howaboutme, Badoo and Grindr for gay men.

Digital dating is something that is here to stay: transactional relationships, casual intimacy and the occasional marriage.

What are your thoughts? Does it work for you? Why or why not?

Michael Hurst Talks Sex

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“Creative Mornings” is a monthly forum (and a must) for anyone who wants to collaborate, listen, observe, assimilate, network or grow from the content of the speakers, and the people that attend.

Hosted at Q Theatre in the ‘Lounge’ with complimentary water from “Antipodes” and the coffee was “Supreme” – don’t mind if I do.

Michael Hurst spoke enthusiastically about directing ‘sex’ on stage and film, with the key subject matter being “Chicago” produced by Auckland Theatre Company and of course “Hercules” and “Spartacus”.

“When do we cross the line?” Michael spoke about what you can and can’t do on set and stage, for example an actor can suck a nipple however there can be no contact with teeth. Fair enough? Why is that? Too erotic, health and safety issue, or maybe it’s a legal matter. Interesting one.

He spoke about the difficulties with contractual obligations with actors and full nudity being a stumbling block. Also, directing scenes in “Spartacus” with male actors and using prosthetics when necessary.

Never mind the relationship issues it can cause the actor when they go home to their partner? How do they deal with this? In my experience there are rules between couples and obviously insurmountable trust. Break it and you lose the love of your life.

Great subject matter at any time of the day!

Project whore: interview #2

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1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?

Prostitution. I guess, this conjures up (for me) the seedy side of sex… people that pay for it must not be “able” to get sex through a mutual loving or caring for each other, as individuals..it’s the whole “transactional” thing that I suppose gets me..that it’s still very in the shadows of society, and it does intrigue me why people become prostitutes and the emotional impact it must have.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?

Never slept with a sex worker.

3. Why or why not?

Never felt the need or desire.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?

Whore means to me, a woman who allows her body to be used easily by lots of men…for whatever reason.

5. Do you belief in monogamy?

I used to believe in it, but think it’s unrealistic.

6. Have you…

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Project whore: interview #1

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1. What are your thoughts on prostitution?

This is service. Husbands, Boyfriends and single men, including women have a common trait – they are greedy. Therefore an additional leg-over during the week is seen as a transaction due to human flaw.

2. Have you slept with a sex worker before?

Yes.

3. Why or why not?

It was available and I was curious.

4. What does the word ‘whore’ mean to you?

This word sounds negative so it would be used to insult. But, it’s a job title for a profession too. For me it is a demeaning word.

5. Do you belief in monogamy?

No

6. Have you been solicited to, by a sex worker in the street? Male or female?

Yes

7. Do you think sex work is a choice?

No, it is all to do with money and greed. They get used to the good money and…

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Relationships At Work: Do You Dare?

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11184955

Have you ever had a relationship with a colleague, or (maybe) your boss?

Sometimes, you can meet the most incredible people in the workplace, right? You normally share (some) common ground, due to working in the same industry, so what happens if you take it further?

Do you keep your relationship strictly professional in the office, and romantic after hours?

Apparently some New Zealand employers (including Air NZ, Fonterra, Telecom, NZ Police, Defence Force) are taking the above quite seriously: ensuring you sign a contract promising “not to have sex with staff.” If you enter a relationship with a colleague, you need to disclose the status quo straight away, or face the (possibly legal) consequences.

Have they gone too far, do you think?

I have had two historical relationships in my (previous) workplace’s sometime ago, and actually married one of them!

So naturally I have an opinion.

Good luck corporates!